In a book I am reading, "Gospel-Powered Parenting" by William P. Farley, he makes the intelligent conclusion that "Christianity is a patriarchal religion. That means father centered." I had never thought about it like that, but he's completely right!
However, "...the contemporary secular worldview is increasingly matriarchal (Mother centered), and matriarchy has invaded the church." Partly this is important when we seek to understand why feminism is not a godly thing, and why it is important for men to be the leaders in the church. "When women lead, men withdraw from both church and home."
"Throughout the scriptures, fathers are the parents, and their wives are their assistants. The wife is a crucial assistant. ... Dad is the chief parent, the one accountable to God for his family. Mom is there to assist him."
It's amazing how as women, we tend to take over the child raising. However, as it may be my job to change diapers, give baths, and feed my children (and yet my husband still generously helps me often with these tasks), it is my husbands job to lead us and teach us. I realize that it is my job to carry out his wishes on parenting while he is away from home working. I'll admit that sometimes it's easier to distract my child when he's acting up, or just tell him to stop doing something without teaching/disciplining him because I'm too busy working on something. However, it is my responsibility to assist my husband by being the best parent I can in his absence. Something I need to work on!
These are just some things I was excited to learn and wanted to share with you. This is a wonderful book and I would recommend it HIGHLY to anyone out there with children. And to those without children, it's still a wonderful book about the gospel and another one of it's many applications to our lives.
One last thing. Here are some statistics regarding children's church attendance that will make you think.
(2003 issue of Touchstone magazine published the conclusions of a Swiss study.)
When both father and mother attended church regularly, 33% of their children ended up regular attenders.
When the father was nonpracticing, and the mother was a regular church attender, only 2% of their children became regular worshipers.
When the father was a regular attender, and the mother was irregular or nonpracticing, the percentage went up from 33% to 38%-44%.
It just goes to show how influential our fathers are.
Thank you, Lord, for my wonderful husband who is an excellent father to my child, and soon children. What a blessing to have someone so powerful to help me in my life's goal to honor the Lord, and teach my parents to do the same.